This list includes books and resources for adults supporting bereaved children and families, including those with special educational and additional needs.  See also our separate list of books and resources for children and young people.

For further help in finding resources, email [email protected] or call our Helpline on 0800 02 888 40.

Please note: inclusion on this list does not constitute a recommendation or endorsement by Child Bereavement UK, as we are aware that whether a book is helpful or not is subjective and as such is a decision that can only be made by the individual reader.

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When your Partner Dies: Supporting your children

Author: Child Bereavement UK    Available from Child Bereavement UK. To order please email [email protected] or call 01494 568 917.

A short booklet which offers guidance for a surviving partner when parenting their bereaved children as well as coping with their own grief. It was developed with help from bereaved families and was kindly funded by BBC Children in Need. Also useful for GP surgeries, Health visitors etc.

A Child's Grief: supporting a child when someone in their family has died

Author: Di Stubbs, Julie Stokes, Katrina Alilovic    Buy from Amazon

This booklet offers practical suggestions and activities for adults who are supporting children through a bereavement. It covers a range of issues that may affect a child when someone important to them dies, both immediately and in the longer term.

You Just Don’t Understand: Supporting bereaved teenagers

Author: Helen Mackinnon    Buy from Amazon

The transition from childhood to adulthood can be a challenging process at the best of times. This booklet aims to help you understand what is normal adolescent development, and to recognise the additional problems teenagers may face if someone important dies during these years.

Someone Very Important Has Just Died

Author: Mary Turner    Buy from Amazon

This short book tackles the sensitive issues of what to tell children, how far to include them in the events immediately after the death, and how to tend to their physical and emotional needs. The material is suitable for anyone regardless of their background and beliefs, and is supplemented with information on where to go to obtain longer term bereavement support.

Talking About Death

Author: Earl Grollman    Buy from Amazon

This guide to helping children cope with death includes an illustrated, read-along story, and discusses coping with a child’s anger, denial or guilt, and how to discuss funerals, cemeteries and grief.

Grief in Children: A Handbook for Adults

Author: Atle Dyregov    Buy from Amazon

This fully updated second edition of “Grief in Children” explains children’s understanding of death at different ages and gives a detailed outline of exactly hoe the adults around them can best help them cope.

The Little Book of Bereavement for Schools

Author: Ian Gilbert    Buy from Amazon

A short, personal account of the way various schools tried to support the author’s three children after the death of their mother. A book for a parent to take into any school wondering how best to support grieving pupils. It opens with a brief 15 point guide which would be a helpful starting point.

Culture and beliefs

Caring for Dying People of Different Faiths

Author: Julia Neuberger   Buy from Amazon

Now in its third edition this book covers the practical and ethical issues surrounding caring for people with different faiths. It outlines the various cultures of Jewish, Islamic, Hindu and Buddhist faiths, which are of relevance to health and healthcare, and gives practical advice on providing care in a culturally appropriate manner. Considerably expanded and now including a new chapter on Humanism, it will be essential reading for all healthcare professionals, including doctors, nurses, and other hospital and hospice staff treating people with different faiths.

Palliative Care for South Asians: Hindus, Muslims and Sikhs: A Practical Guide

Author: Rashid Gatrad, Erica Brown and Aziz Sheikh    Buy from Amazon

This book aims to describe the needs of palliative care patients from south Asia minority ethnic and faith traditions. Chapters include: Understanding diversity in context, Palliative care needs of south Asians – similarities and differences; Muslims; Hindus; Language of religious symbolism.

We Need to Talk About the Funeral: 101 Practical Ways to Commemorate and Celebrate Life

Author: Simon Smith and Jane Morell   Buy from Amazon

This book informs about the wide choices available when arranging a funeral. It offers guidance about how to make a funeral ceremony that both commemorates and celebrates a life, and provides comfort, inspiration and good memories.

Special educational and additional needs

A Special Kind of Grief

Author: Sarah Helton   Buy from Amazon

Children with SEND (special educational needs and disabilities), especially those in special schools, often experience grief at a much younger age than others, as some of their peers are more likely to have life-limiting medical conditions. This book provides all the resources that educational professionals need to ensure their community is fully prepared to acknowledge and support pupil bereavement and loss.

Remembering Lucy: A Story about Loss and Grief in School

Author: Sarah Helton    Buy from Amazon

This touching short story will help children with SEND (special educational needs and disabilities) aged 3+ understand feelings caused by death and loss, and the illustrations help convey the complex experience of bereavement in a simple and clear way. Included is a teacher’s guide to talking about bereavement, grief and loss, making this the ideal aid for teachers and support staff at SEND schools and colleges.

Interventions with Bereaved Children

Author: Smith and Pennells   Buy from Amazon

A resource with lots of practical ideas. Twenty contributors share effective ways of supporting and helping bereaved children. Chapter 13 is titled, “Helping Families and Professionals to Work with Children who have Learning Difficulties.”

Autism and Loss

Author: R V Forrester-Jones   Buy from Amazon

“Autism and Loss” is a complete resource that covers a variety of kinds of loss, including bereavement. It includes factsheets and practical ideas which families and professional carers may find useful.

Finding Your Own Way to Grieve

Author: Karla Helbert    Buy from Amazon

A creative activity workbook for grieving children and teens on the Autistic Spectrum. The clear concise language will help adults communicate with children around the abstract concepts of death and grief.

Lets Talk About Death

Author: Down’s Syndrome Scotland   Buy from Down's Syndrome Scotland

A booklet about death and funerals for young people and adults who have a learning disability. Includes some simple text on why people die, what happens at funerals and possible grief reactions. Photographs support the text.

When Mum Died

Author: Hollins and Sireling   Buy from Amazon

This book takes an honest and straightforward approach to death and grief in the family. The pictures tell the death of a parent in a simple but moving way. “When Mum Died” shows a burial. The approach is non-denominational. Suitable for young people and adults with a learning disability.

When Dad Died

Author: Hollins and Sireling   Buy from Amazon

This book take an honest and straightforward approach to death and grief in the family. The pictures tell the death of a parent in a simple but moving way. The approach is non-denominational. Suitable for young people and adults with a learning disability.

When Somebody Dies

Author: Hollins and Sireling    Buy from Amazon

Using pictures, the book tells the story of Mary who is very upset when someone she loves dies. She is encouraged by a friend to go to regular bereavement counselling sessions, which help her to feel less sad. John also loses someone he is close to. He is given comfort and companionship by friends and is shown learning to cope better with life. Suitable for young people and adults with a learning disability.