Whatever you feel is how you feel. You may experience nothing or a mixture of feelings all at once. 

Young people supported by Child Bereavement UK share what has helped them. Could you draw your own lockdown kit? 

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Coping with lockdown: Top tips from other bereaved young people

Staying in touch:

“Stay in touch with friends by message, phone, social media or letter … Spend time with your family baking or playing board games for example.”

Keeping busy and learning new things:

“I have been studying the theory for driving”

“Baking as it is fun and it’s nice to do something for someone else to enjoy”

“Make the most of the free time to learn or try something new such as learn to play the ukulele”

“Music! Listening to or playing an instrument”

“Find time to relax, perhaps try gardening, writing, painting “

Exercise and getting outside

“I have been working out”

“Exercise daily - it gives you happy endorphins, even just walking”

“Running helps to clear my head and get my anger out in a productive way”

“One thing that is very good is going for a walk at sunset”

Time to think or be creative

“I have been painting, listening to music and singing”

“Start journaling: writing down your feelings, as through this time you can realise how you have grown as a person”

“Read, cutting off social media for an hour a day gives you time to expand your knowledge and delve into the character story.”

Look ahead and make plans

“I am planning a holiday with friends when this is over”

“Organise - as you now have time to sort everything out that you procrastinated!”

Other ideas for managing feelings

  • Spend time with people you feel comfortable with. Sometimes you may want to talk, other times you may not but sometimes just being with others who care about you can help.
  • It’s really normal and OK to feel angry but it’s important that you express it in a way that is safe for yourself and others.
  • Try talking to someone – perhaps someone you trust or who has been in a similar situation. You may find it easier to speak to friends rather than family and that’s OK.
  • Distract yourself, have fun and do things you enjoy – spend time with friends or pets, go outside, watch a good film or TV programme, play a computer game. You will have times when you don’t think about who has died and that is OK.
  • Write about or draw your thoughts, feelings and memories.
  • Create your own space. Somewhere to go where you can feel safe or spend time on your own.
  • Choose something that belonged to the person who died that you can treasure and keep with you
  • Create a memory box where you can keep photos or things that are special to you.
  • Listen to music that you like and that your special person enjoyed : make a  special play list
  • Think about all of the good times you had with them.
  • Chatting with others in the same situation can help you remember you are not on your own.
  • Ask for help. This could be from someone at home, at school, your doctor or anyone else you trust.
  • Try watching a short film made by other bereaved young people (see below)
  • Try looking at a support website or contacting a support organisation

How does all this help me to feel better?

Cheshire young people's canal boat adventure

Young people we support tell us that doing different activities and trying new things can help in the following ways:

  • Exercise which helps to release feelings such as anger as well as releasing endorphins which can improve mood and make you feel happy
  • Doing fun things can feel like a reward you can give yourself for achieving something
  • Learn new skills
  • Important self-care
  • Opportunity to relax
  • Outside activities mean you are in fresh air which is good for you and makes you feel good
  • Is a reminder to give ourselves time to have fun and laugh
  • Chance to spent time with friends, socialising
  • A planned activity to look forward to
  • A distraction from grief and challenges in life
  • Motivating

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