Think through the following two scenarios and how you might respond:


1. All attempts at resuscitating a child have failed and the parents are waiting in the bereavement room. What do you actually say to the parents?

a) Ask them some general, caring questions about how they are and use a gentle approach, eventually trying to help by telling them that the fatal accident was not their fault.

b) Tell parents their child (name) has died and leave them alone to absorb the news, explaining that a nurse is making them some tea and will be with them soon.

c) Tell them immediately how sorry you are that their child (name) has died and that everything possible was done.


2. When a child under your care has died, you feel you want to say “sorry”. Should you?

a) Yes

b) No