A Teenage Guide to Coping when someone dies (fold out A3 guide)

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The text can also be found in our section For Young People - what helps to move forward

This resource can be folded down to fit in a pocket.  It contains practical advice and guidance for a young person managing confusing emotions when someone important in their life dies. Original text written by a young person whose father died.


When someone special dies - for young people

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This leaflet has been prepared with the help of bereaved families. It aims to help children when they have been bereaved. Also essential for A&E, Intensive care units and professionals who support families.


Tough Stuff Journal - Someone has died

Author: Pete English   Available to buy from AtaLoss.org

Designed in free form for a bereaved young person to work through on their own or with a trusted adult, this journal asks questions and invites the young person to express feelings and emotions that are otherwise difficult to articulate. Useful for schools, youth leaders, parents or anyone working with a bereaved child or young person from 9 to 13 years old.


Everything's Changing: the young person’s guide to grief and loss

Author: Ann Atkin    Buy from Everything's Changing website

‘Everything’s Changing’ serves as a catalyst to important conversations with young people, and a useful record for the young person to refer back to in the future. The book draws on tried and tested bereavement support resources, which have been re-worked in order to appeal to people in the 13-25 years age group.


What on Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies?

Author: Trevor Romaine & Elizabeth Verdick    Buy from Amazon

Suggests ways of coping with grief and offers answers to questions such as ‘Why do people have to die?” and “How can I say Goodbye?” Friendly, accessible text and illustrations aimed at ages 8-14.


Still Here with Me: Teenagers and Children on Losing a Parent

Author: Suzanne Sjoqvist    Buy from Amazon

This book is a moving and thoughtful anthology of the experiences of thirty children and teenagers who have lost a parent. In their own words, children and young people of a variety of ages talk openly and honestly about losing their mother or father. They describe feelings of pain, loss and anger, the struggle to cope with the embarrassed reactions and silence of others, and the difficulties involved in rebuilding their lives. They also share happy and loving memories of their parents, and talk about the importance of remembering while learning to accept their parent’s deaths.



From a Clear Blue Sky

Author: Timothy Knatchbull    Buy from Amazon

A powerful survivor’s account of the IRA bomb that killed the author’s 14-year-old twin brother, his grandparents and a family friend, published on the 30th anniversary of the atrocity.


Sometimes Life Sucks: When Someone You Love Dies

Author: Molly Carlile    Buy from Amazon

Teenagers experience loss in all kinds of ways. Whether it’s the death of a grandparent, pet or school friend, a teen fatality, a peer with terminal illness, living without a mum or dad, or the death of a celebrity. Like everyone else teenagers also struggle to come to terms with their shock and grief. Full of great tips, stories and gentle advice, Sometimes Life Sucks helps teens to navigate their personal experience of grief.



We Get It

Authors: Heather L. Servaty-Seib and David C. Fajgenbaum    Buy on Amazon

A unique collection of 33 narrative by bereaved students and young adults in America, this book aims to help young adults who are grieving and provide guidance for those who seek to support them. It has been described as like having a group in a book.


Teenage Guide to Coping with Life after Death: Helping teenagers through the death of the Mum, Dad, Sister or Brother

Author: Grief Encounter   Download from Grief Encounter

This guide is to introduce young people to some ideas, to Grief Encounter, and to other things that may help. Grief Encounter aim to help young people feel less alone, acknowledge what they are going through, and to help them feel back in control.


Grief Encounter

Author: Shelley Gilbert   Buy from Amazon

Aimed at 8-15 year olds. A workbook to encourage conversations with children, young people and adults about death. Grieving is hard work, especially for parents and children in deep grief. The upward spiral of grief replaces stages theory and allows time for people to adjust to the fact that someone special has died. The book is full of creative activities and offers incredible comfort to mourners-old and young. The focus is on the death of a parent, but suitable for the loss of a sibling, grandparent, friend. The author recommends that the book is used with an adult, at least initially.


Rory’s Story

Author: Anna Jacobs   Buy from Amazon

Rory is an adolescent boy who is struggling with the loss of his mother. Confused and bullied at school, he attempts to run away and finally returns to face his feelings. This therapeutic story is a gritty, readable story that teenagers will relate to; it explores the teenage experience of loss and bereavement; it can be used to support young people who have experienced loss; it can help teenagers understand the needs of their peers when loss occurs; it has notes for discussion on the themes of each chapter.

This story can be used in conjunction with the practical workbook 'Supporting Teenagers through Grief & Loss'. This useful tool which will help teachers, therapists and carers to support and understand the needs of adolescents facing loss.


You will be OK

Author: Julia Stokes  Buy from Amazon

In this honest, comforting and strength-building guide Julie Stokes, a clinical psychologist and founder of childhood bereavement charity Winston’s Wish, provides readers with the tools they need to navigate this tough and turbulent time. Packed with practical exercises, such as creating memory boxes and managing different kinds of memories using ‘memory stones’, this guide will give readers helpful ways to manage their grief so they can begin to move forward with life.


Letters from the Grief Club

Editors: Beth French and Kate Moreton

A book containing letters from a diverse group of bereaved young adults, written to themselves on the day their loved one died. The letters reflect on their immediate grief whilst offering advice and support to their current selves. The editors, Beth French and Kate Moreton, have experienced loss themselves, with Beth losing her mum, and Kate losing her dad at the young age of 17.

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When a sibling has died

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I Miss My Sister 

Author: Sarah Courtauld      Buy from Child Bereavement UK

Illustrated by Holly Surplice, this book is recommended for children aged 4-10 years old. The beautiful and expressive colour illustrations help to guide the child through the different emotions they may encounter following the death of a sibling, as well as the different categories of grief over a period of time. Awarded 'commended' in BMA Patient Information Awards 2010.



Benny's Hat

Author: Juliet Clare Bell   Buy from Amazon

Benny’s Hat deals quietly with the huge subject of a sibling dying, from the viewpoint of the sister. It shows how children and young people might deal with serious illness and death differently to adults. The story gives adult readers examples of how to support children when a sibling is not expected to live, not only from the section for parents at the back, but also by watching Friz’s parents’ reactions to her behaviour.



Ben's Flying Flowers

Author: Inger Maier    Buy from Amazon

When Emily loses her brother after a long illness, she feels alone, angry, and very, very sad. With the understanding and support of her parents, Emily learns that it helps when she snuggles with her parents. It helps when she talks about her feelings and asks questions about Ben. And it helps when she does regular kid stuff too. But mostly, she learns that remembering Ben and their happy life together builds health and helpful images that soothe her sad feelings and provide much comfort to her and her family. Written for children aged 4-8.



Stewart's Tree

Author: Cathy Campbell   Buy from Amazon

Ellen’s new baby brother Stewart has been “lost”.  Ellen looks in all the cupboards for Stewart, and even in the washing machine – but then her family help her understand that Stewart has died and isn’t going to come back. Together they plant a tree for Stewart, so they will always have a place to remember him. This book for children aged 3+ helps explain sibling loss shortly after birth, and provides guidance for adults written by qualified clinicians.


Remembering My Brother 

Author: Ginny Perkins and Leon Morris   Buy from Amazon

In 1993, Chris Reed died. The author of this book worked with his family to put this book together which aims to show the importance of talking about grief and loss and remembering with love someone important who has died. It relates ordinary family events alongside an account of the family’s visit to Chris’s grave.



My brother has died

Author: Dr Jennifer Kelly    Free to download from Grace Kelly Childhood Cancer Trust

If your child has sadly had to face the death of their brother, then this booklet is designed to help you talk with your child about what has happened. It offers support in a simple that can help children as they adjust to life without their sibling. It can also be used as a basis to encourage discussion and to raise any questions they may have. It may also help them to voice their feelings.



My sister has died

Author: Dr Jennifer Kelly    Free to download from Grace Kelly Childhood Cancer Trust

If your child has sadly had to face the death of their sister, then this booklet is designed to help you talk with your child about what has happened. It offers support in a simple that can help children as they adjust to life without their sibling. It can also be used as a basis to encourage discussion and to raise any questions they may have. It may also help them to voice their feelings.


When a Grandparent has died

My Grandma Died: A Child's Story about Grief and Loss

Author: Lory Britain   Buy from Amazon

A young child talks about the emotions felt after Grandma’s death. Includes a list entitled “Things I can do when someone I love dies.”


Granpa

Author: John Burningham    Buy from Amazon

Adorable Granpa gamely nurses his granddaughter’s dolls, eats her pretend strawberry-flavoured ice cream, takes her tobogganing in the snow, and falls in step with her imaginary plans to captain a ship to Africa like all good grandfathers should. Winner of the Kate Maschler Award, this poignant tale of friendship and loss is one children will long remember.


Grandad's Ashes

Author: Walter Smith    Buy from Amazon

This beautifully illustrated picture book for children aged four to eight tells the story of four children who embark on an adventure to find their Grandad’s favourite place, they are faced with plenty of challenges on the way. Told with gentle humour, this is a charming story for children and an ideal resource for parents or professionals to read with a child as a way of broaching issues surrounding loss or bereavement.


Remembering

Author: Dianne Leutner.  Illustrator: Daniel Postgate

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Part book, part scrapbook, Remembering was created to help keep a child's memories alive after the loss of someone special and to give children a place to return to whenever they wish.


Grandad’s Bench

Author: Addy Farmer      Buy from Amazon

This is a beautiful, sensitively told story of love and loss and of a special relationship between grandfather and grandson.

Jake loves playing in Grandad’s workshop. One autumn day, Grandad teaches Jake how to chisel his name in a piece of wood, and afterwards they go to the park. Grandad shows Jake the tree that grew from an acorn he planted when he was a boy. Jake goes off to buy ice-creams and returns to find Grandad on the ground. The ambulance arrives. Mum and Jake go home without Grandad. Jake grieves for his grandfather all winter. But Grandad has left him his workshop and Jake wants to make something special. With Mum’s help, he does – a plaque for the bench under Grandad’s tree. It is spring; for the first time in months, Jake feels happy.